people always say that 'i cannot forgive someone easily~' and very seldom for people to say 'oh i forgive you from the bottom of my heart and i will never remember about it~ so, let's start something new~'... everyone must have heard all the phrases that i've mentioned just now right? but 'i can forgive but cannot forget' is the most common phrase that we have always heard of~ yeah, it is normal for human beings to have the feeling of dissatisfaction on something or someone~ it occurs in me as well,,, but to me, the forgive-but-cannot-forget statement is UNACCEPTABLE~ mm not really unacceptable actually, it is just i don't know the right word to be used in exchange of unacceptable~ -_-" gomen! tehee~
why am i saying this? for me, the answers is either 'i can forgive' or 'i cannot forgive or it is difficult for me to forgive',,, okay, let us elaborate on the forgive-but-cannot-forget phrase~ when you say you forgive them but you cannot forget what has happened, doesn't that tell us that you are not really ready to forgive them? which is to say that you cannot forgive them~ the answer is there, obviously, but you are saying that in an assertive manner~ :) so, now you are save from being aggressive in giving out your thoughts to others~ right? but it is not bad to do that~ i admit it would bring harmony to the relationship with your surroundings (harmony? HAHA!) and you can avoid conflicts too! so, it is a good thing!
however, what makes the behaviour unforgivable? no apologize either in verbal or non-verbal way? or it is ourselves that cannot accept such behaviour? well guys, it is all up to the P word~ (thanks to Dr. Genelyn for the nice wrap-up just now~ tehee) what is P??? P is our pride~ forgiveness can be easily given to those who are at fault if the pride thingy is not inside us~ we kept on thinking that if we forgive them now, they would not learn their mistakes,,, you must have encountered this kind of thought, no? or it is only me that make a stereotype statement here? usually it is like that~
i think everyone has their own pride~ it would be a BIG lie if someone says he/she does not have any,,, and it must be difficult for US, not just you, but me as well, in throwing away the pride thingy~ and i would say being understanding with one's behaviour instead of being angry with it, is not an easy thing to be accomplished~ so, adik2, kakak2, abang2, makcik2 dan pakcik2 sekalian, let us work hard to manage our diversity that surrounds us since we encounter lots of differences in gender, thoughts, personality and even interests~ work hard but never forget to be yourself as you are trying to adjust yourself with all the differences~
and experience is a very good teacher! there is no book can teach us in adjusting ourselves if we happen to face a situation that needs our courage to handle and manage the diversity~ the experience might be painful or happy or sweet or anything but as we grow older, we will know that all the experiences that we have is vital for us to be more mature and confident in handling diversity issues around you~
so GOOD LUCK people! good luck for me as well~ x)
may Allah bless~
~TATAS~
